Some time back, I was thinking the reason I feel so miserable is because I lost my spark. I thought about getting back into art, but have felt like it was nearly impossible given my life circumstances revolving around obligation, duty, etc. In a way, that was what drained me. I tried to kill my “self” in order to be what I thought was required of me. I saw everything as a struggle. I convinced myself that if nothing was moving or appearing successful, then it was because I wasn’t meant to go that route. After 20 years, I think, the reason nothing was moving was because I didn’t move. Instead of going to New York, I stayed because that’s what people would say was good “enough”. I was surrounded by people who thought I was a snob for wanting to do something other than live life and get old in the Midwest. I didn’t want to leave family because they’re my family. I didn’t want to hurt anyone. They convinced me to fear for my safety and choose responsibility over whims of the imagination/heart. Yet after 20 years, I can safely say I should’ve chosen to chase after that one thing. Sure, following your heart means someone will get hurt, but is it fair to ask of someone to throw away their potential so that they can feel better or think “well, now she’s being sensible!” I don’t see much sensibility in my life. My life this evening feels like a whirling disaster where the centrifugal force is ripping chunks from my brain.
Over this past weekend, one of the local stores had an amazing sale on primed canvas: 70% off. This was a sign. Ha-ha! Well, I don’t know about that, really. Remember how I said some time back I was thinking of getting back into art? Well, this little gal had a simple conversation with G-d in the midst of one of those painful moments of awareness… I said to G-d, “I really desire to be creative again, but there’s no way I can afford to buy the canvas I want to paint on. If you really made me in your image as a creator, then you’re gonna have to figure out how I can get those canvases.” (Don’t worry, I checked the spelling. It’s kosher.) So now I have 7 leaning against the wall… waiting.
One driver of this desire is… I don’t want to work out there again. EVER. I have panic attacks about how to make money if I don’t want to work for other people. Watching this election coverage sort of seals the deal for me. I almost don’t recognize the world. I was sort of terrified before in these last 5 years, but now I don’t want to be out there with “them”. I can’t deal with that select breed of “them”. Ironically, I’m probably them, but I’m trying not to be. I don’t want to be angry or distrustful. That’s the stuff I’m trying to transform back out of. I’m a big believer that you become like who you’re spending your most time with. For instance, if someone complains about money, then I say if you want to be rich… hang out with rich people who make smart decisions that accomplish wealth. Yet, don’t be surprised that most of the people who are wealthy can kind of be pricks who have no qualms about stepping on people to get their way to the top. Not all, but I think a lot do. They probably see it as, “if I try to please everyone then I’ll never get anywhere”. Look at me. I’m still here. *uncomfortable snicker
Anyhow, the hub will not be reimbursed for traveling for work anymore, so that puts us in a pinch. I knew it would be a possibility, but he never listens to me about these things. He just had to have a new car to travel in. He brushed my what-ifs aside, and now I have to get rid of cable, possibly internet, and get a job so he can pay for the car. Don’t know how, really. I have one disabled son who requires a guardian’s presence… aka mine, and a little guy who has a full schedule of activities I taxi him to. I could probably be an investigator someday for as much as I’m used to being in a vehicle. Did I mention I don’t like driving and can’t handle trips much longer than an hour these days? Being in a car is absolute monotony to me. I can’t wait till they figure out that beam me up, Scotty thing. I wonder what happened to my sense of adventure. It must’ve died the day I had green chilies in my Mexican food. Oh the cable thing? I like to feel connected. I like knowing that if I feel like turning on the news, I can do it in 2 presses of the button. I want weather… got it. I want comedy, got it. I need a lot of comedy. If I want how-to demonstrations… got it. I’ve lived without cable and internet for a long time before. It can be boring without it. And there comes a point where you just become oblivious to what’s out there. I don’t know. It’s a double-edged sword, and maybe a luxury thing, but if I wanted to live in complete quietude, I’d become Amish. No offense, intended, but I’m bound to rub people the wrong way. Sorry for my imperfection and lack of discrete thinking process. I can just say, oh! Other people do it, too!
Back to this election stuff. Do you get the feeling that too many people on the internet read too much conspiracy things and now the paranoia and rage are sort of bubbling up? Yes, people are angry because money is “mismanaged” or “overspent” and there are buddy-buddy scenarios when maybe it should not be so in the land of governtown… but how can there not be? It’s human nature. I think it will always be like that until every single human removes selfish desires out of themselves. I mean we’re talking hundreds of different people in these jobs. They go in thinking they’re going to change the world, but soon enough find out that they’re deadlocked and in order to get anything done, they have to play the game and do things they don’t agree with. People can say get rid of all the officials. Ok, let’s say that happens… you still have to deal with debt, budget crunches, and I don’t know, the whole decipher and interpret the law issue. If you just burn it all down, then it’s the wild west again. As much as I like horses, cowboys, and appreciate people who are fearless… it’s regression. Maybe potentially anarchy. Dear world, please don’t give me a reason to lock myself up for real. Government is necessary. Maybe what everyone should try doing is actually pitching in within their own communities. So many people are in their own homes or set places to be, that they don’t even look up to see what can be done. Some kids destroy something on the street, and some taxpayers have to fix it, or there are so many things falling into degradation all at once, no one can keep up fixing it all. How about don’t litter? Take care of stuff so it lasts everyone longer. Contribute some of your skills… for free. Cooperate. Easier said than done. Oh woe.
My son had this inflation project he had to work on last week. The average cost for a movie ticket in 1945 was around 50 cents. A car was like $1200 and a house was a little over $4000. Using an inflation calculator, 4 grand in 1945 had the same buying power as $52,691. Insane, right? It really blows my mind. I have a fear we’ll all be in the streets looking for scraps in 20 years. Well, maybe not you. It’s getting to the point I almost can’t buy a shirt, again. I hate spending $14 on a shirt that lasts maybe 10 washes. I don’t know if it’s my old washer, or what. I get to 3 washes on a new shirt and it really starts to fall apart. I had so many things get holes after 1 wash. This is like a $20 top, not a $5 one. I’ve tried handwashing, but it’s abrasive on my hands and I think it wastes more water. I’ve tried making my own detergent, but the hub cringes at it. I’ve gone at least 3 wears before washing shirts and a week or more for jeans to try to make things last longer and save energy. Sorry clean freaks, I promise I don’t smell, and don’t worry about me sitting on your couch because I’m usually at home or in the car. China is killing me with the lack of quality. I don’t know that you can really blame China, it’s more like the companies themselves who maybe give the approval on these inferior, manmade fabrics. They try to cut costs where it shouldn’t be. Then we’re screwed because, that’s all there is to choose from! I have wondered how fabric is woven and if I can make it myself. Where do you get the supplies? How long does it take to weave basically thread by thread? Does America even make fabric anymore? I’ve gone into fabric stores around here and I can’t even find, let alone afford, to buy any I want. I have a hard time dropping the money when I know I can just go into a Walmart, a Target, or a Kohl’s for something that costs less and probably is sewn right vs. my MAJOR lack of sewing dexterity and lack of a serger. Forget bigger department stores. For the price of jeans there, I could practically outfit my child in Target or Childrensplace clothes for 1-2 seasons. Fashion changes so quickly. I can’t see the point in taking a chance in buying something more ‘designer’. I used to work in department stores. I think quality overall has gone downhill for everything. I recommend consignment stores to find better quality, sometimes even more style, but now the ‘garbage’ is being taken up in them, it’s bad, and it’s going to get worse. What happens when consignment has nothing left to offer? They close and some people really depend or enjoy shopping them. I had shirts in the 90s that lasted well over a decade. I’d still probably wear some of them if they fit. Yes, I have some of them. And you know, I’m glad I didn’t get rid of them. I may have to tear them up and make something out of them in the future. I will probably have to take sewing lessons. I want to learn ‘real’ sewing. I’m tired of feeling like a slob. Tailored clothes need to make a comeback. Maybe we’d respect each other a little more. That sounds bad, but think about how people treat each other differently just by appearance or how they carry themselves. This lack of quality thing scares me. I hope my kids are grown before the day arrives when we resort to making our own clothes from self, handwoven grass or something. All I need is one brisk wind to remind everyone why underwear was created. There are people who want to get back to roots, but I don’t want to go that far back. I knit, but even that’s unfavorable because all the synthetic yarns have a weird texture, or pill in the wash. Colors are limited. They don’t hold their shape well. Who wants to spend weeks on a project for it to fall apart after a wash or two? I even researched getting my own spinning wheel and a sheep. I really did, but then it was like, who am I kidding? I’m allergic to wool. Even if, I don’t have anywhere to put a sheep, and you wouldn’t want him to be alone. Then if they ever got sick or old and died I’d feel really bad because I can’t handle it. I had a fish get sick and die and I’m still not over it. I think it was bad of me to have one, but my child really wanted a pet fish. I think fish are harder to take care of than cats and dogs. There’s a whole ecosystem balance you have to get right and maintain.
And what about all the other stuff? It makes me sick to think of the workers they take advantage of to make these prices low. To think how naïve most of us would be still if people didn’t risk getting their stories out. Yes, ‘merika, slavery still exists. It’s nuts to me. They have so many people, they want the same things anyone else basically does, right? Yet, I have crazy thoughts like China is secretly trying to poison us from the inside out and we’re too stupid to see it. Greedy U.S. puts making money as priority. Of course anyone who hates us is going to use that as an opportunity to bring us down if they can. This is a subject I could talk about for awhile, but it’ll just make me sound like a complete ass or a spoiled brat. Look, I’ve been poor. I used to use boxes as furniture and eat a can of green beans with some rice for my dinner. I’ve slept on other people’s futons/couches/floor. It sucked, and I don’t ever want to go back. I don’t ever want to have days where I’m hungry again. I don’t want my kids to be in that boat, either. If middle class is feeling it, then the poor are hurting badly, maybe more than before, but I don’t know. They have access to free stuff now, like phones… yeah wish I had that one before when I needed it. I can understand, but this raising minimum wage thing is just going to cause companies to raise all their prices again to cover the wages they’re paying out. They all will argue that the companies cannot exist if they don’t go overseas, but what happened to cause this mess anyway? Greed? People who didn’t want to work? Lack of skilled workers? Too many regulations? People paying cash to others to do jobs for them that they once did for themselves? How about paying for things which reduce their funds that neighbors or family used to for each other for free? LIKE BABYSITTING. I’m thankful that women can work outside the home, but how much of it just came back as a strain on the family in other ways? Technology… how much is good, and how much did it incapacitate us to our sofas? People literally work just to buy electronics and perhaps food, because you know, you kind of need that to live. Oh and medical tests. I feel like I’m going to be sent to detention for not seeing the doctors for checkups, mammograms, or whatever they say. You know, I don’t HAVE to live forever. I don’t have to live the longest life possible. It’s odd to me that we think it’s wrong if we don’t do everything possible to keep all of our body parts in working order. Some say suicide is a sin. What, now NOT going to the doctor and getting crazy expensive MRIs and surgery is, too? No one wants to lose the people they love. We don’t want anyone to be in pain. But what the hell good is it if you survive, but have near millions in debt because of medications and surgeries? Let’s say you’re near senior status. It’s not like you’re going to work and pay that off. People’s bodies fall apart. I’m falling apart. My back is messed up. My knee has something wrong with it. My brain is going. I’m developing metatarsal something or other and now I can’t find shoes that fit my right foot without causing the kind of pain that makes you want to fall on your face. I’m going to have to move far south to wear sandals all the time or something. I’m such an a-hole. Yet, I recognize that I’ve made some choices that have caused some of these problems. I hope I don’t die before my children are able to continue on somehow without their mom, but hey, gotta make room for the newbies, right? Just think how many other parents out there feel like their kids wouldn’t be able to make it without them? I believe some parenting is good, but there is a line where it just cripples a child from maturing. Anyway, who wants to stay here forever if the soul gets to move on, wouldn’t it be fun to see what else is out there? I prefer less horror and suffering scenarios, so hopefully if the heaven realm is the only other half of the afterlife, I get to stay there. Frankly, I’m curious about the rest of the universe and the unseen between.
Nearing the finish of today’s rant… this election scares me. I voted, but it’s a terrible feeling to doubt how you voted. I stuck with my decision and the majority of course doesn’t agree with me. It doesn’t usually. I’m at peace with my choice, but it’s kind of disconcerting that some people are a bit malicious towards anyone who didn’t vote strategically. These people who are strategizing their votes kind of sickens me. It’s like they’re whoring out a valuable American right in a chess match. How is that different from the government leaders and lobbyist game? They want something different? Fine vote 3rd party, but look, no one does because it’ll be wasted. I am terrified of Trump being the nominee for the Republicans. I do not trust that man for the presidency. He is a businessman. He watches out for numero uno. I think he has a conflict of interest and will influence things to benefit him and his friends. In the past he donated to Democrats. Now I don’t have a problem with Party A vs Party B vs Party C, etc. That doesn’t matter to me because everything is getting convoluted. Not too many people will adhere to clear party lines. Anyhow, if he was a Democrat, donated to Democrats, isn’t it most likely that he throws his hat into the ring to either 1: be so crazy that you would think the election would be handed to Hilary, or 2: once his butt in that oval office chair, he will work for Democrat interests even if he ran as a Republican? He doesn’t strike me as the type of person who would care about that sort of thing. Have you ever heard him really speak up for small businesses yet? I haven’t. Maybe I missed it. He appears to be taken up by this tidal wave of adulation. It excites him, and I don’t believe he really has all Americans best interests in mind nor does he have a clue about how to get anything done. It’s a power position he’s after. He wants to reach the summit. I wonder if there are blocks to things he wants to remove in order to accomplish what he’s really wanting. People think he will fight for them, but I can see him getting carried away and making decisions that steer more toward selfish hopes. Like a salesman, he will do what he can to get you to buy. Doesn’t mean he’ll stick to it. Then he’ll explain, well, there’s this insert loophole. I want to say I’m wrong, but I had feelings about the current president when he was running. To me, he was a dreamer who appealed to inspiration, but lacked leadership or realism to accomplish things. The overuse of executive orders may be a demonstration of leadership in his book, but I don’t think it is right. I think Trump will make things worse on many levels. We could probably be in a war within 2 years of a Trump presidency. Why would anyone give leadership to someone who behaves like a tantrum throwing child? These “deals” he speaks of? He probably acted like a stubborn baby until he wore down whomever he was “negotiating” with. Then people think they NEED to compromise with him because of the $$$ signs associated with his name. D’oh!
For me, this decision was almost easy. Who can hold up with other people from around the world when it comes to talks? Who knows the game? Who has compassion? Who cares, really? Who is realistic? Who has focus? Who has experience? Networks? Inside knowledge? Who will really do the work? Talkers don’t get much work done. Complainers don’t get work done. Who will shut up and work? Who will actually listen and try to find solutions? Who is brave enough, displays some wisdom, and knows they’re there entrusted to lead and should not rest on their haunches too long? No one fills all these? Then pick the person who is the best fit. I don’t need my President to be entertaining. That’s what the whole entertainment industry, sports, and recreation is for.
If a business isn’t likely to hire someone without experience or training, especially for a specialized position, why would anyone in their right mind think it’s going to be great to hire a person to be President that is basically like the college student who smokes weed and talks like they’re already some big thing, but the problem is, the kid hasn’t even graduated yet, done an internship, networked with the appropriate channels, etc for that particular big thing?
The brainpower of this country scares me. I’m no exception. I can’t even write the way I was taught to. I wonder how many people voted for Trump just because they saw ‘everyone else’ doing it. How many voted for Trump because they saw a 30 second blurb on YouTube or a retweet taken out of context? Crazy apparently is the new cool. I wonder if I should leave this country before we’re locked in for the ride if he’s President, and I can’t believe I even think that. So many people try to get in, and I’m thinking maybe I should get out. Patriots will jump on that and say obviously I should because that’s Anti-American. This is not quite the same thing, but I would venture to say, tell that to the Jews when Hitler came a knockin.I don’t want to be here when war comes. The fact that we ‘can’t’ make anything anymore, aren’t good with problem solving, or know how to do math, use science, etc. makes us an incredibly vulnerable nation. A broad and toughened military doesn’t mean much if you’re on the outs with the world and you can’t even make clothes for your people to wear. Where would the military even get what they need to defend us if they don’t even make the weapons, armor, or supplies anymore, huh? Do we even know how to build planes here? I don’t need a doctor to inform me about that type of health risk. Remember the wall being torn down in Germany? I imagine people coming from everywhere entering the U.S. as if scaling walls to tear the country down. I don’t know how America really became “great”. I don’t know what “evil” helped contribute to it, but I’m sure there has been evil. It’s always right there cozying up next to power. The melting pot, rights, democracy… how long can that really last? The ideal is an idea. People forget that. I can imagine things, too. Doesn’t mean that’s going to be reality. Mob mentality scares me. I don’t want to be in the path of that wave. If I feel this, then others probably do, too. It’s paranoia and it puts people on edge. Just as when you cook, there are certain things that just don’t mix well together. This is the chemistry of the world we live in. Maybe to some degree, it’s the same with people. Why do people think it’s a terrible thing if we don’t mix perfectly? Maybe the separation caused by geographical formations and of continents themselves, was nature’s way of trying to maintain borders. Oil and water don’t mix because of polarity. You hold a magnet one way and put another magnet with the same pole facing it and it repels. What if what is in us is the chemistry that attracts or repels. Positive, negative charges. Positive/negative attitudes. Good/evil. Love/hate. When people date, we might refer to “chemistry”. This is in nature. We are part of that, not above it. If we were aliens, then we wouldn’t be subjected to obeying these natural laws. It wouldn’t affect our relations, right? Yet this is something people battle over. I think it’s like we’re trying to figure out how or what can be blended. However, maybe we need to be prepared to accept that there might be natural things that we will not overcome. Why do people forget that we are part of nature? We came out of this earth. So maybe I should just focus on letting the grass grow this summer and get to weaving.
Thanks for reading/listening. Please don’t be mad at me.
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Ah! I’m a big, dumb, dork. I almost forgot what started me on making a post. While I was researching ways I could sell art, I found this web site that will put your art onto products. I was excited because I read they made duvet covers and that is unusual. I like things that are a little different. I browsed several pages because I was curious to see how someone’s designs would translate onto a duvet, and guess what? Once again, I came across something to remind me of you (dude, I s**t you, not!) Ha ha! Sorry, I just realized my comment was kind of fitting ~ made me think of that scene in your movie considering I’m mentioning duvets. Cleveland is still cold this time of year.
This is where you can find it at Society6:
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